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Give yourself a break, concentrate on your recovery, then see if you are ready to 'date.' J M H O Love and hugs, __________________ God Bless You All As You Trudge The Road Of Happy Destiny (especially when you are trudgin thru alligators up to your butt) Sobriety: AA June 7, 1981 Codependency: Alanon June 7, 1984 I will agree...
You apparently don't know this, but AA has No Rules. The big book actually advocates having a well rounded life.
No moving from one resident to another, unless the current living arrangements were putting sobriety into jeoparady. I M H O the reality is that the first year IS EXTREMELY HARD on most of those serious about recovery, and diverting one's concentration, or diluting one's concentration with all the potholes of dating, and/or a new relationship divert us from working on ourselves.
Now you sound like the majority of those I have worked with, still 'wanting to rebel in some way' lol and will end up doing what you want to do, lol Think about it some more please.
Someone's gotta be the first to say it, so I guess it might as well be me: AA doesn't have a rule about dating.
If you're feeling good and confident in yourself and you think you're ready then go for it.
One thing I'll say is that be ready for some emotions you haven't felt in a while sober.
I didn't drink and it made me stronger and more confident in the end, but it was the first time I dealt with some of those emotions sober in 20 years and it was a little hard to handle at first. Like many things in AA, the admonition not to date or make major changes in the first year is based on something that makes sense: the idea that in early recovery folks are still whirling around and need to take some time for themselves to regroup. Also, marriages, existing committed relationships, and children can't just be shelved for a more convenient time.
But it does ignore the fact that life still happens, and can't be ignored on the basis that one is in one's first year of recovery. At the same time, though, I think that getting into a NEW relationship is probably not the best idea in the first year or so after one quits an addiction...even longer.